Pride Month 2024: Ways To Deal With Your Emotions When A Family Member Comes Out To Y ou

A friend, family member or a loved one coming out to you is a delicate, sensitive moment, which can evoke a wide range of emotions. It is important to process these feelings mindfully, to ensure you provide the support and acceptance the person coming out to you needs.

Dr Mona Gujral, Delhi-based counselling psychologist, who shares her expertise on coto, a women-only social community app, says, “Firstly, acknowledge your own emotions. Whether you feel surprised, confused, or even unsure about what to say, understand that your emotions are natural. However, your focus should be on the person coming out to you. Listen attentively, be compassionate towards them and their emotions, offer your unconditional support, and most of all, do not be judgemental. Your reaction can significantly impact their sense of safety and acceptance, so it’s important to create a positive, respectful and comfortable environment in that moment and beyond.”

Secondly, stay present and be empathetic. “Avoid rushing to label or judge both emotions and theirs. Instead, establish support by asking how you can best support them. Remember, you aren’t trying to solve their issues or fix anything, you are just supporting them, providing validation and being understanding,” adds Dr Gujral.

If needed, turn to online platforms like coto or even therapists to help deal with the situation yourself, and to find the right guidance to help the person coming out to you. “Live consultations and online support groups are a great way to navigate these complex emotions. Through discussions, you can gain insights and strategies to manage your feelings effectively and help react to this situation (and many others) with compassion, ensuring your loved one feels safe, understood, and most importantly, loved for who they are,” signs off Dr Gujral.