There are seemingly endless sex toys out there; it can be hard to know what’s worth your money and what you might enjoy. We talked with experts to better understand what you should look for in a clitoral vibrator specifically. Here’s what to keep in mind when trying to pick out a quality toy.
Materials
Look for body-safe, sanitize-able, nonporous materials like medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, quartz, or hypoallergenic metals like stainless steel (all over is great, but definitely on the areas that will be touching your clit or going near/in any openings). This helps prevent bacteria from getting trapped even after you clean your toy, says Shannon.
Power source
Toys can be rechargeable, plug-in, or battery powered. “Most toys seem to be rechargeable these days, but I recommend having at least one in your arsenal that’s battery powered because no one wants to run out of charge when they’re ‘so close’ and then have to wait two hours for it to charge again,” says Shannon. “Keep some spare batteries in your sex toy drawer so you’re always quickly ready for another go.” Battery-powered toys are also great for travel—just take out the batteries and you don’t have to worry about them starting up in your bag. Plug-in toys can also be useful for the same reasons, though the cord can sometimes get in the way and won’t always be able to reach where you want.
Vibration modes
“Most toys have more modes than you’ll ever need or use,” says Shannon. “So overall I find the number of vibration patterns to be more of a marketing tool than a pleasure tool.” Most people use the consistent vibration mode, she says, so focus on the intensity options and the design of the actual toy as you shop. “Think ahead about which situations you may want to use a new toy in (bathtub, doggie-style, traveling, etc) and look for features and a design that will work well in that situation,” Shannon says.
Shape and size
Again, think about what sensations you like when you masturbate and during sex, and look for toys that have a shape and size that can mimic that. “Do you want a toy that really targets just the head of the clitoris—or the whole vulva?” Shannon asks. Direct pressure can feel great to some (which can be achieved with bullet vibrators and toys with pointed tips), while others may prefer a more diffuse vibration that spreads across the vulva (offered by most palm vibrators and clit suction toys with deep mouths that mimic the feeling of oral sex). Are you looking for something that can fit between you and a partner or be worn during sex, or something for strictly solo play? Additional features like waterproofing, quiet vibration, and ergonomic loop handles are also worth considering, depending on how you plan to use your toy most.
Can you use lube with clitoral sex toys?
Absolutely, but you want to make sure your lube won’t break down the materials your toy is made of (oil-based and silicone lubes can degrade the quality of silicone toys, for example). Water-based lubes are your best bet, says Shannon. “My favorite is Good Clean Love BioNude. It’s safe with all toys, and it’s safe with condoms too.”
And if you haven’t tried lube with your toys—yes, even clit vibrators—or for solo sessions in general, give it a go! “I’m a fan of lube,” says Shannon. “Whether you’re on antihistamines or low on estrogen, sometimes things are just a little drier down there.” Even if you’re not planning on incorporating any penetration, lube can feel great on your vulva and clit.
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