It’s totally normal if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed on your hunt for the best sex toys for women—there’s a world of options out there, like vibrators, butt plugs, dildos, and anal beads, to name a few. If you’re looking to experiment with a new kind of toy (or toys, in general), it can be hard to sift through all the choices to find what you (or your partner) will enjoy the most.
Whether a G-spot vibe or an app-controlled toy for long-distance play sounds more your speed, we can help you zero in on the best of the best to choose from, and help you figure out what might be fun to try. We’ve sized up dozens of options for vulva-owners that definitely deserve a place on your nightstand. Our top picks for the best sex toys for women in 2024 include bestsellers from brands like Lelo, Dame, Lovehoney, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe, recommendations from sex educators, and SELF editor favorites.
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What to consider when shopping for sex toys
First, ask yourself how you hope to actually use the toy. “Have an idea of the type of stimulation and pleasure you want to experience, which will help narrow down the toys that will best meet your needs,” says Malika O’Neill, LPC, MEd, a sex and relationship therapist, tells SELF. If you love how it feels when someone goes down on you, take a look at oral sex toys. If your clit is highly sensitive, seek out a toy with gentle vibrations.
From there, consider: What is the toy made to do? Does its size and shape work for you? How many intensity and pattern settings does it have, and how much money do you want to spend on it? Also, check that the toy you’re eyeing is body-safe—choose one made of sanitizable, non-porous materials, like stainless steel, borosilicate glass, and medical-grade silicone. (FYI: If you’re leaning toward a silicone toy, know that silicone-based lube can cause it to break down over time. Instead, try water-based lube, which is usually a safe, solid choice for most sex toys, as SELF has previously reported.)
Vibrators
Vibrators come in a ton of shapes and styles, with different power and speed settings. Although many vibrators are designed for external stimulation, many can also be used internally. Dual-stimulation vibrators target both the clit and the G-spot at the same time.
Wand vibrators often have large, ball-shaped heads, long bodies, and intense motors. This combo allows them to spread vibrations out across a larger area than smaller vibrators, which can feel more focused. “Wands are great for clit stimulation during solo play or partnered play,” Shamyra Howard, LCSW, CST, tells SELF, adding that they can also feel excellent across nipples, butts, and penises.
Best Wand Vibrator: Magic Wand Original
- Pros: Very powerful, rechargeable, optional cord, flexible neck
- Cons: Bulky, not waterproof, a little noisy