Our experts recommend keeping these factors in mind as you search for the right balance of cushion and support.
Material
Most sex pillows are either made from foam or have an inflatable design. “Foam pillows are going to be sturdier, last longer, and hold their shape,” Nekrasova says. “They’re also generally better at having more weight put on them.”
Inflatables may get squishy under pressure, and ideally, your pillow should be firm enough to hold you up without being rock-hard, Nekrasova says. “[Blow-up pillows] also run the risk of being more likely to get damaged.” Still, it’s worth considering an inflatable if you can’t store a larger pillow or don’t want to spend the time pumping one up (especially in the heat of the moment).
When it comes to the pillow’s cover, look for one that’s removable and water-resistant for easy cleanup. Some are also machine-washable, which makes them more hygienic—and this is especially important if you’re using a pillow with multiple partners. You want a cover that feels good, too: “Most people want that fabric to be smooth and soft, or some people like faux leather,” Dr. Torrisi says.
Shape
Some sex pillows are shaped to provide support in certain areas or make specific positions easier. As you shop, consider how (or with whom) you plan to use your pillow to narrow down your choices.
Wedges are popular because they can add more support to positions you do with a partner—for example, the receiving partner can place it under their hips when on their back in missionary or lean their forearms on it during doggy-style. But other curved shapes are great for solo play, whether you’re into humping and grinding or you want a slot for using a wand vibrator or dildo. Because who says no to hands-free masturbation?
Additional reporting by Malia Griggs